[[虚伪是文明的润滑剂]]
- **The Experiment:** A man tells his wife, "I find you less attractive than when we met."
- **The Defense:** "I am just stating a biological fact! It is the Truth!"
- **The Mechanism Failure:**
- The wife already knew she aged (Private Knowledge).
- The husband knew she knew.
- But by **saying it**, he moved it from "an unfortunate reality of time" to "an act of aggression."
- He forced a new Coordination Game: **"Do you value me?"** By stating the negative truth, he signaled "No."
**Why this fails:**
Relationships are built on the **Cooperative Principle**. We assume partners try to help us.
"Radical Honesty" prioritizes **Data Transmission** over **Relationship Maintenance.** In a social species, prioritizing data over the bond is seen as a defect (Autism spectrum or Sociopathy).